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I should have chucked drink over the Essex boy, not ignored his cruel comment and then let him snog me. Looking back, I quickly fell into the trap of using it as a way to feel good about myself.
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As more sites and apps launched, I added them to my phone. From Match and Tinder to Bumble and Happn, I was there with my carefully curated profile and filtered selfies.
My thumb ached from hours spent scrolling. It suddenly struck me that all his profile photos were hehots — and heavily filtered by the looks of things!
I made my excuses and scarpered. Some guys lasted a few dates, others were one-night stands.
I met one date at his house before we went to a party, and he dropped his trousers and suggested a quickie the moment I walked in the door. All around me, women were having similar experiences, which made it feel like the norm.
To my married friends, I became a clown, a source of entertainment like a real-life Bridget Jones. We dated for six weeks and I fell hard for him. Then he ghosted me, cutting me off with no explanation.
As the years went by, online dating changed me as a person — and not for the better. Over time I also became emotionally detached, which was probably a self-defence mechanism after years of the rollercoaster of pre-date anticipation, then post-date disappointment.
1) delete the apps. all of them.
It was an effort not to open my old s, but it was also a revelation to discover how much more time I had for myself. Instead of hours spent online and on dates that went nowhere, I saw friends more, went to spin classes and sorted out my wardrobe. It felt great to focus on me. Then in at a Christmas work party, smack-bang in the middle of my detox, I got chatting to my colleague Dan, now However, he explained at the party he was recently divorced.
I got the sense he was trying to flirt, but I was firmly in the man-free zone and not interested. When my detox ended at the start of FebruaryI had no desire to return to online dating.
A few weeks later, Dan asked me out for a drink and I accepted — it was time to leave online dating behind and meet men in the real world. Our first date was at a local pub and I very quickly realised we had amazing chemistry.
There had been no filtered photos, embellished profiles or weeks of trying to impress one another with witty messages. Dan got the best version of me.
Taking that time out from dating has made me the happier, more relaxed woman I am today. in. All Football.